Discussing condom use isn’t always easy, but it’s necessary. When it comes to HIV prevention, communication and protection go hand in hand. Whether the relationship is casual or long-term, setting boundaries around safe sex protects both partners and fosters mutual respect.
Why Condom Use Matters
Condoms remain one of the most effective and accessible tools to prevent the transmission of HIV. When used correctly and consistently, they provide a physical barrier that reduces the risk of HIV infection through sexual contact.
According to UNAIDS:
• Nearly 60% of new HIV infections in 2023 occurred in Sub-Saharan Africa, making it the most affected globally.
• In Ethiopia, an estimated 610,000 people were living with HIV in 2023, with around 8,300 new infections that year.
• Condom use among young people in Ethiopia remains low. A 2022 DHS report found that only 32% of young women and 52% of young men reported using a condom during their last high-risk sexual encounter.
These numbers highlight the urgent need for open conversations about protection and consistent condom use.
Common Barriers to Condom Use
Many people still hesitate to use condoms due to myths, discomfort, or social pressure. Common objections include:
• “Don’t you trust me?” – Condom use is about health and prevention, not distrust.
• “It doesn’t feel the same.” – While some may experience a difference, the risks of HIV far outweigh any temporary discomfort.
• “It kills the mood.” – Taking a moment to protect each other should be seen as part of a healthy sexual relationship.
“The art of the deal” how to negotiate condom use (without killing the mood or causing World War III)
- Bring it up early
Don’t wait until the heat of the moment. Discuss condom use calmly and ahead of time.
- Use clear, respectful language
Express your preference using “I” statements, such as “I use condoms to protect my health.”
- Stay calm if there’s resistance
If your partner is hesitant, ask why and listen. Then explain your reasons clearly. Avoid arguments, but stand firm.
- Respect your own boundaries
If your partner refuses to use a condom, it’s your right to say no to sex. Your health comes first.
If Your Partner Says No
• Stay calm, but don’t compromise.
• Ask questions to understand their reasoning.
• Do not give in to guilt or emotional pressure.
• If your boundaries are not respected, walk away.
To wrap it up (pun definitely intended)
Talking about protection and condom use might not be anyone’s idea of foreplay, but neither is an unexpected trip to the clinic. Whether you are in a situationship, long-term love bubble, or just figuring it out with someone new, this is about knowing your worth, your standards, and your health priorities. You don’t need to be aggressive, and you don’t need to be apologetic. Because at the end of the day, for as long as you are clear, confident, open, and maybe a little charming. The only thing that should be going raw is your sense of humor.
Written by : – Kidus Solomon, 4th Year Medical Student
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