Talking to your partner about STI testing doesn’t have to be awkward, its not like you are asking them if they believe pineapple belongs on pizza (although that’s a relationship deal breaker for some). Think of it more like asking them to brush their teeth before kissing you, respectful, responsible, and definitely not a mood killer. Start with a calm and casual tone. You could say, “Hey, before we get any closer, I think it’s important we both get tested, just to make sure we’re starting off healthy and safe.” It’s not an accusation; it’s a mutual check-in, like confirming neither of you is allergic to certain type of food or drinks before going to dinner.
In this scenario, you can visit;
- Zewditu Memorial Hospital: Free HIV testing, ART, STI treatment
- AHF Addis Clinic (AIDS Healthcare Foundation): Free HIV/STI testing, counseling, condoms, PEP, PrEP
- I Addis Ababa University Health Services:Free HIV testing, pregnancy testing, emergency contraception
- Bole Drop-in Centre: Free HIV/STI testing, PrEP, ART, self-test kits
- Mary’s Laboratory & HIV Counseling Center: Free HIV testing, education, and support
- Henry van Ameringen Health Center (Shola Market): Free HIV/STI testing and treatment
- Marie Stopes Ethiopia: Not free, but highly subsidized and affordable
Now, let’s talk facts, because knowledge is sexy. STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) don’t always come with big neon signs. Many, like Chlamydia or Gonorrhoea, can hang out silently without symptoms, especially in the early stages. Left untreated, they can lead to infertility, chronic pain, or even increased HIV risk. Getting tested doesn’t mean you’re positive, it shows you’re open to test and confident. Plus, testing is often quick, involves a urine sample or a simple swab, and you usually don’t even have to take your pants all the way off (bonus!) and no, it’s not the doctor giving you “the look”, they have literally seen it all, comforting isn’t it?
Going together can actually be a bonding experience. You can even reward yourselves after your clinic visit with a dinner date. The important thing is, testing shows you care about your health and your partner’s. You’re not giving a lecture, you’re starting a conversation that says, “I like you enough to want us both to be healthy, together.” That’s not awkward, that’s being mature and reflects on your commitment to your partner.
Nothing says “romance” like knowing neither of you has syphilis. And if one of you does? No shame, STIs are incredibly common, treatable, and way less awkward when caught early. Just follow your doctor’s advice and finish your meds (yes, even if your symptoms vanish like your motivation after a long Monday).
At the end of the day, talking about STI testing shows maturity, self-respect, and care for your partner. It’s not about fear, it’s about facts, trust, and keeping your shared love story drama-free. Take a deep breath, keep it light, and remember it’s not about who’s been where—it’s about going forward, healthy and informed, together!
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