Awkward Beginnings: How I told my partner I have STI

My Dear

It’s never easy to talk about this stuff, it’s nerve-racking, heartbreaking, and trembling. I have been through a tough time writing these saddest lines. It’s such a disappointing feeling to find out you have an STI but even worse when you have to tell someone, especially someone you care about. The risk of losing you is unimaginable but the risk of not telling you will hurt me even more, gradually. 

So what I decided was to get my strong suit on and make the call, to tell you that more than my love, my truth matters and that is my dear I have STI (Sexually Transmitted Infection) 

When I first found out that I had an STI I thought everything was ending, my life as I know it was gone, and that made me suffer countless stressful nights, it was an experience that shifted my perspective about many things in my life. But as the saying goes, what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger, and with that, I pulled myself from the pools of shame and taboos and decided to tell you that not only I’m living with STI but I am okay with it

What gave me confidence was my realization that millions of people around the world are living with STIs, and to my surprise, I have found many resources and support systems that helped me deal with my condition. 

One of my scariest assumptions was that my life wouldn’t be the same after having STI and I wasn’t sure even in telling you this fearing that you would assume that I am a changed person, but nothing about me is changed, not even a strand of hair. If anything, I have learned a lot about how to take care of myself better, and to be mindful of my health decisions. I would say I’m in a good state of health and mentality, I take care of myself more than I did before, I take my treatments accordingly to my schedule and I still refer back to an incredible online support system from people who have had the same experience and can share it, which helped me escape  a state of alienation and loneliness. 

Although this has been a challenging experience to go through, I’m joyful that I get to tell you honestly about my conditions without fear or shame or a sense of disappointing you, it is because I care deeply about our relationship that I’ve decided to share but all of this wouldn’t be possible without the help and awareness I have got from my friends, doctors and most people like me, People who have gone through the same situation. They made me feel that it’s okay to have STIs and that the bigger lesson is to move forward with mindful decisions and confidence. 

With Love 

The DO’s and DON’Ts of Online Dating

The DO’s and DON’Ts of Online Dating

Online dating is an increasingly popular way for many young adults globally, including Ethiopia to connect and find love. With the convenience of being able to connect with potential partners from the comfort of your own home, it’s no wonder that online dating has become a popular choice for many.


However, with the increase in online dating comes the potential for danger. It’s important to be aware of the risks and to know how to stay safe while using online dating platforms. That’s why we’ve put together The Do’s and Don’ts of online dating – a comprehensive guide to help you navigate the world of online dating and make the most of your


  1. DO use a reputable dating platform or app with privacy features: Protect your personal information and ensure a safe and enjoyable online dating experience.
  2. DON’T share personal information with someone you have just met online: Sharing personal information too soon can be dangerous, it can expose you and make you vulnerable for online scams. 
  3. DO be honest about who you are and what you’re looking for in a relationship: By being honest about who you are and what you’re looking for in a relationship, you attract the right people and avoid wasting time on incompatible matches.
  4. DON’T ignore red flags or warning signs that a person may not be safe: Ignoring red flags or warning signs could put you in danger, so it’s important to trust your gut and stop communicating with someone if they make you feel uncomfortable or if their behavior seems suspicious.
  5. DO always meet in a public place and let someone know where you’ll be: By meeting in a public place and letting someone know where you’ll be, you can ensure your safety and have peace of mind when meeting someone for the first time.
  6. DON’T send inappropriate or explicit photos or messages: Sending explicit or inappropriate photos or messages can be dangerous as it can be used against you in the future.
  7. DO always use protection when engaging in sexual activity: make sure to avoid the potential dangers associated with unprotected sex, such as the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or unintended pregnancy.
  8. DON’T EVER compromise consent: By respecting consent, you ensure that your interactions with others are safe, respectful, and enjoyable for everyone involved.

    By following these simple guidelines, you can maximize the benefits and minimize the dangers of online dating. So why wait? Get started on your online dating journey today and see where it takes you!



Molar pregnancy & its possible medical complications

Molar pregnancy & its possible medical complications

A molar pregnancy which is also known as hydatidiform mole is a rare complication of pregnancy characterised by the abnormal growth of trophoblasts, the cells that normally develop into the placenta.

There are two types of molar pregnancy, complete molar pregnancy and partial molar pregnancy. In a complete molar pregnancy, the placental tissue is abnormal and swollen and appears to form fluid-filled cysts. There’s also no formation of fetal tissue. In a partial molar pregnancy, there may be normal placental tissue along with abnormally forming placental tissue. 

There may also be formation of a fetus, but the fetus is not able to survive, and is usually miscarried early in the pregnancy.


A molar pregnancy may seem like a normal pregnancy at first, but most molar pregnancies cause specific symptoms, including:

  • Dark brown to bright red vaginal bleeding during the first trimester of pregnancy
  • Severe nausea and vomiting
  • Sometimes vaginal passage of grape like cysts
  • Pelvic pressure or pain

Risk factors

Approximately 1 in every 1,000 pregnancies is diagnosed as a molar pregnancy. Various factors are associated with molar pregnancy, including:

  • Maternal age. A molar pregnancy is more likely in women older than age 35 or younger than age 20.
  • Previous molar pregnancy. If you’ve had one molar pregnancy, you’re more likely to have another. 


A molar pregnancy can have serious complications including a rare form of cancer and requires early treatment. 

After a molar pregnancy has been removed, molar tissue may remain and continue to grow. This is called persistent gestational trophoblastic neoplasia (GTN). This occurs in about 15% to 20% of complete molar pregnancies, and up to 5% of partial molar pregnancies.

Rarely, a cancerous form of GTN known as choriocarcinoma develops and spreads to other organs. Choriocarcinoma is usually successfully treated with multiple cancer drugs. A complete molar pregnancy is more likely to have this complication than a partial molar pregnancy.


During any subsequent pregnancies, your care provider may do early ultrasounds to monitor your condition and offer reassurance of normal development. Your provider may also discuss prenatal genetic testing, which can be used to diagnose a molar pregnancy.

Benefits of modern contraceptives

Benefits of modern contraceptives

Benefits of modern contraceptives

 Contraception can be used to plan when people have children and how many children they have. 

This includes choosing:

  • when they want to begin having children
  • how far apart they want their children to be
  • when they want to stop having children

This is everybody’s right under the United Nations Declaration of Human Rights.

Young people are especially at risk of problems in pregnancy. Contraception allows them to put off having children until their bodies are fully able to support a pregnancy.

Contraceptive use reduces the need for abortion by preventing unwanted pregnancies. It therefore reduces cases of unsafe abortion, one of the leading causes of maternal death worldwide.

Early pregnancy can also cause health problems for the baby. Babies born to teenagers are likely to be underweight before and at birth and are at higher risk of neonatal mortality (death of a newborn within 28 days of birth).

Pregnancies that are too close together or poorly timed contribute to high infant mortality rates – that is, the rate of babies that die within their first year of life.

Contraceptive use lets people plan their pregnancies so they can make sure the baby is getting the best care before and after birth.

Contraceptive use slows population growth. This is important because overpopulation puts pressure on the environment, the economy and services such as education and health.

Aging and SRH changes in men & women

Aging and SRH changes in men & women

Aging and SRH changes in men & women

Age-related physiological changes do not render a meaningful sexual relationship impossible or even necessarily difficult. In men, greater physical stimulation is required to attain and maintain erections, and orgasms are less intense. In women, menopause terminates fertility and produces changes due to estrogen deficiency. The extent to which aging affects sexual function depends largely on psychological, pharmacological, and illness-related factors.

In women, vaginal walls become thinner, dryer, less elastic, and possibly irritated. Sometimes sex becomes painful due to these vaginal changes. The risk for vaginal yeast infections increases. The external genital tissue decreases and can become irritated.

Unlike women, men do not experience a major, rapid (over several months) change in fertility as they age (like menopause). Aging changes in the male reproductive system occur primarily in the testes.

In middle and old age, the reproductive systems undergo significant changes: a gradual decline in fertility and fluctuations in the production of sex hormones, the latter triggering anatomical and physiological changes in distant organs and tissues.

Aspects of mental health care in a  gynecological setting

Aspects of mental health care in a gynecological setting

Aspects of mental health care in a gynecological setting

Psychological disorders are commonly associated with gynecological conditions, but are frequently undetected and untreated, and may influence the presentation and treatment outcomes of the physical condition. Some of the gynecologic conditions such as menopause, premenstrual syndrome, premenstrual dysphoric disorder, chronic pelvic pain, polycystic ovarian syndrome etc can be associated with an increased risk of psychological symptoms and disorders.

Anxiety and depression are common psychiatric conditions and are associated with significant morbidity. Gynecological conditions, by their nature, are likely to be accompanied by impairments in social, occupational and personal functioning. Greater emphasis should be placed on the mental health aspects of gynecological conditions.

Women present to gynecological clinics with a wide variety of physical conditions, ranging from bothersome premenstrual and menopausal symptoms, to incontinence and pelvic pain. It is well established that depression and anxiety occur more commonly in those with physical illness compared with healthy populations. 

Moreover, many gynecological conditions, by their nature, affect personal and intimate relationships, as well as social and professional roles, thus giving rise to a range of psychological issues, which, may in turn influence the presentation and outcomes of coexisting physical conditions. These relationships are complex, and involve the interplay of hormonal, social, cultural and individual psychological factors.

The gynecological setting provides an important opportunity for the detection and treatment of psychological issues. These can range from transient concerns to more serious symptoms of depression and anxiety, and depressive and anxiety disorders that meet specific diagnostic criteria. Yet, the psychological aspects of conditions presenting in the gynecological setting are somewhat neglected, resulting in relatively few studies that have examined the consequent mental health care needs of women attending gynecological clinics.